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What Your Gift of Flowers is Really Saying

Do you want to send a friend a symbol of new beginnings? A sign of cheerfulness? A declaration of love? Find the meanings behind your favorite flowers and greens.

In the 19th century, a gift of flowers didn’t need to include a card. The flowers themselves said everything. Floriography, or the language of flowers, was a sort of secret code that expressed thoughts and emotions via petal color and flower type. Today, few know the meanings of flowers—but the obscurity is part of the charm if you'd like to assemble a bouquet with a special message.

Origin of floriography

The ancient Greeks, Romans, Egyptians and Chinese all used flower and plant symbolism, writes Sandra Mason, state master gardener coordinator at University of Illinois Extension. Using flowers to pass messages was done in the Middle East as early as the 1600s. Society letter writer and poet Lady Mary Wortley brought the practice back to Europe after a visit to Turkey in 1716. Floriography caught on quickly in France but didn’t reach its peak in England until the reign of Queen Victoria. The customs of the time forbade outright flirtation in conversation, so sending subtle messages via flowers gained popularity.

Flower meanings

Here are the meanings behind flowers you’ll likely find in bouquets this spring:

Baby’s Breath … Everlasting Love

Daffodil … New Beginnings

Fern … Sincerity

Freesia … Lasting friendship

Gerbera Daisy… Cheerfulness

Pansy …Think of me

Pink rose … Grace

Ranunculus … You are radiant with charms

Tulip … Declaration of love

White daisy …Innocence


For Mother's Day, an appropriate bouquet might include tulips (“declaration of love”), gerbera daisies (“cheerfulness”) and lilies (“majesty”). Or send an eloquent message with just one flower, such as Ranunculus, which says “you are radiant with charms.”

Messages in greenery

Every element in a bouquet can hold symbolic meaning, right down to the greenery. The addition of ferns signifies sincerity; holly, foresight. Ivy is sometimes added to bridal bouquets because of its association with fidelity. And Shakespeare fans will recall the famous line from Hamlet: “Rosemary...that’s for remembrance.”


Putting floriography into practice

If you want to get serious about floriography, you'll need a guide—you can get a free download at Project Gutenberg or look for copies of books such as The Language of Flowers. But as I found out, flower shopping can be tricky! While shoppers around me decisively grabbed bouquets, I tediously flipped through my flower dictionary before making a choice. I put back a beautiful bouquet containing a sunflower, which I read meant "false riches." Mums and hydrangeas, common flowers today, were absent from my Victorian dictionary. I settled on a bouquet of pink roses (grace), holly leaves (foresight), and hydrangea, which I later learned could either mean vanity and heartlessness or heartfelt emotion. I decided to go with the latter interpretation, noting that the Victorians must have had plenty of time and patience.




Variances in meaning

Flowers can have negative as well as positive meanings, as I discovered out with the hydrangeas. But don't let that stop you from sending a bouquet; nowadays, it’s a safe bet that loved ones will be happy just to receive colorful blooms. Plus, many cultures use flower symbology, with meanings quite different from each other. So if you don’t care for the Victorian interpretation of a sunflower, know that to the Chinese, it symbolizes vitality and good luck.

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